艾合买提 西安电子科技大学 MsRightVSMsOK

Yesterday, IreceivedaphonecallfrommymumandshetoldmeeitherIfindasuitablegirlfriendwithinoneyear, orshewouldfindoneforme.

LadiesandGentlemen: HowcanIfindthepersonIamdreamingof, theoneIhopeisperfectformeonsuchatimetable? Findingtrueloveneedsmoretime, andisunpredictable. DoIgiveupthehopeofrealpassion, realloveandsuccumbtothispressure?

Sadly, manyofmyfriendshavesubmittedtothispressuretomarry‘MsOK’ ratherthanwaitfor‘MsRight’.

Thepressuretomarryhastwofacets. Firstly, theneedtomarrybeforeacertainage, andsecondly, theneedtomarrysomeonewithmoney.

Whenwetalkaboutgettingmarried, weareconcernedabouttheageproblem. Educationhasalreadypushedouragetothetraditionaldeadlineconsideredsuitableformarriage, sotomarry‘ontime’ wemusthurryourchoice. UnderthispressurethemajorityofuswillgiveupoursearchforouridealMsRightandagreetomarryMsOK- atthecostofrealloveandpassion.

Todayweareencouragedtoundertakehighereducation. WhenIfinishmystudiesandstartajob, Iwillbeatthat‘critical’ age. But, LadiesandGentlemen– Iwillnotbeinapositiontomarry. Iwillhaveacareertobuild, longhourstowork, andperhapsmorestudiestodo. Thiswillmakemyreadinessformarriageevenfurtheraway. Itistimetobanishtheconventionalconceptthatweshouldmarryatacertainage.

Thesecondpressureformarriageisthatofmarryingsomeonewithmoney. Itisnotthathardtoimaginethatmoneyisthebasisofmarriageformanycouples. Todayweregardmarryingapersonwithalargefortuneasawonderfulopportunityandwewillbeseenasveryhappy. Ifwemarrysomeonewithnomoney, orpoorjobprospects, weareseenasunlucky, anditisamistakeinothers’ eyes. But… ismoneythebasisofanidealmarriage? Thatisthequestionweallshouldthinkabout. We, asalovingcouple, canearnmoneyaftermarriage, butwecannotsustainamarriagebasedonmoneyafterabankruptcy. Marriageshouldbeapassionforloveratherthanapassionformoney.

Today, wearepressuredtochooseapartnerfirstly, onanoutdatedlifetimetable, andsecondly, tochoosesomeonewithmoneyorgoodjobprospects. Wesomehowneglectedourrealpassion, thehappiness, strengthandsupportwecanfindinalovingmarriage. Ourdifficultdilemmais- MsOKorMsRight. LadiesandGentlemen, Idonotwanttosuccumbtothesepressures. Idon’twanttobeintroublewhenMsRightappearsifIampressuredtochooseMsOKwithinoneyear. Nexttimemymumasksme, Iwillbesaying“IamwaitingforMsRight!” Iamchoosingpassionoverpressure. So, whatwillyourchoicebe? MsOKorMsRight?