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CriticismIsaKindofDemandonThoseCriticized
Aschildren, manyofusgotagreatdealofcriticismand, asaresult, learnedavarietyofpatternsforcopingwithit. Maryahadapparentlyreceivedlittlecriticism, but, knowingthatshewasnotperfectanddeservedwhatotherchildrengot, developedherownpatternsofselfjudgmentandcensure. Beingjudged, whetherweareunderestimatedoroverestimated, usuallyimpliesademand, subtleordirect, thatwechange. Ifothersdonotdemandchange, wemayfeeltheneedtodemanditofourselves.
Reactionsthatarerelativelyfreefromattemptstochangeordiscreditus, givenbysomeonewhocaresforus, andwiththeintentionoflettingusknowwhatimpressionswearemaking, maybeeasiertotake. If, however, ourusualreactionistodefendourselves, evenmildcriticismorimpressionsgivengentlywithoutdemandsthatwechangemayplayhavocwithourdefensivestructureandbeccnnedifficulttohandle.