我们能让这世界变得更美好么？这句话本身就是一个错误的假设，认为这世界不好。反过来，我们应该说世界就是这样的，没有什么绝对的好与不好。这是我们选择的生活方式，也是我们喜欢的生活方式。换个角度看待事物：接受并试着理解。接受这世界，你会快乐。
“Thereisnothingeithergoodorbad,butthinkingmakesitso.—WilliamShakespeare, “Hamlet
Oneofthegreatestsourcesofunhappiness, inmyexperience, isthedifficultywehaveinacceptingthingsastheyare.
Withoutjudgment, withoutwishingforotherwise.
Whenweseesomethingwedon'tlike, wewishitcouldbedifferent — wecryoutforsomethingbetter. Thatmaybehumannature, orperhapsit'ssomethingthat'singrained（根深蒂固的）inourculture.
Therootoftheunhappinessisn'tnecessarilythatwewantthingstobedifferent, however: it'sthatwedecidedwedidn’tlikeitinthefirstplace. We'vejudgeditasbad, ratherthansaying, "It'snotbadorgood, itjustis."
Anexample: Inmyrecentpost, ABeautifulMethodtoFindPeaceofMind, quiteafewcommentersthoughtmyoutlookwasnegative,pessimistic（悲观的）,orfatalistic（宿命论的）… becauseIsaidyoushouldexpectpeopletomessup, expectthingstogodifferentlythanyouplanned, andthatyoushouldembracethat.
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