11. Createdeeperconnections.
学会深交。
Ourhappinessmultiplieswhenweconnectandbondwithanotherhumanbeingonadeeperlevel. Andbeingfullypresentandlisteningaretwoofthemostimportantskillstostrengtheningthatbondandbringinghappinesstoourselves, andtoothers.
我们的幸福感会在和另一个人的深交中不断猛增。专注聆听是加强这种关系纽带和把幸福感带给自己和别人的两个最重要的方面。
12. Keepyouragreement.
守承诺。
Ourself-esteemisbuiltontheagreementswe’vemadewithourselves. Andhighself-esteemhasadirectcorrelationtohappiness. Sokeepyouragreementswithothersandwithyourself.
我们的自尊是建立在我们对自己守承诺的情况下。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接关联。所以要对自己和别人遵守承诺。
13. Meditate.
冥想。
AccordingtoHarvard, peoplewhotake 8 sessionsofmindfulnessmeditationtrainingare, onaverage, 20% happierthanacontrolgroup. Suchtrainingcanleadtostructuralbrainchangesincludingincreasedgrey-matterdensityinthehippocampus, knowntobeimportantforlearningandmemory, andinstructuresassociatedwithself-awareness, compassionandintrospection.
根据哈佛,平均上,上过8次冥想训练的人要比控制狂多开心20%。这样的训练可以导致大脑结构变化,包括海马体黑色物质的密度,其对学习和记忆很重要,在结构上和自我意识,同情心和反省。